| 1. Never give
out our phone number. People can find out all kinds of information on your "true
location" by that phone number. Either get a pager or arrange to have them call you
on a pay phone. 2. Be
careful of the pictures that you send other people. You may want to be "sexy",
but these sexy photos can turn up on other websites. Be especially careful if you are
going to send nude photos. This is NOT recommended!!!
3. Be careful of your online
nickname. Remember that is how people "classify" you. This tells alot about
people's personalities. If you advertise for bad behavior, you are going to get it.
4. Be choosey about the
sites that you visit... Do you really think that you are going to meet our soulmate on a
sex channel? Might happen, but very unlikely. Try online dating services and personal ads.
Be careful to choose one that will let you determine what kind of person you are looking
for.
5. Never give out your
exact location. The safest thing is to give out just regional information, such as
"Northwest Arizona." Definately, under no circumstances, give out your
exact street address. I would think twice on giving out even your city name!
Meeting
In Reality
1. Make sure to talk to as
many people as possible (as often as possible) who actually know your online love in the
real world. This can be done by doing some research on that area. You can also look for
people on chat search engines who live in that area.
2. Always meet in a neutral
place. Especially try for a public place. Always leave your self an "escape
route." Have a plan on what to do if this person attempts to harm you in anyway, or
makes unwanted advances.
3. Make it fun! Most cities
(especially major cities) have extensive online guides. Visit a few of them together on
the web and plan out an itinerary of everything you both want to do. This will help with
the torture of waiting until you get to see each other and also help your love in deciding
the never-ending question of... what should we do!
4. Stay in a hotel and/or have
a way out in case things don't turn out the way you had hoped. This allows for a neutral
setting for your stay to take place. If you feel comfortable with your situation once you
arrive then go ahead and stay with your love, if that is an option... or relish in the
luxuries of a visit in your hotel!
5. Follow your instincts. This
is the most important rule! Don't let yourself get involved in something you may not feel
comfortable with or have a feeling will not be safe.
If you follow these tips (and
your instincts!) you should have a wonderful time. I wish you the greatest of luck and...
fun!! :)
So, You
Want To Have Sex In Reality
1. ALWAYS use a condom.
Prevention is the most effective strategy for controlling the spread of infectious
diseases. Prevention through avoiding exposure is the best strategy for controlling the
spread of sexually transmitted disease (STD). Proper use of condoms with each act of
sexual intercourse can reduce, but not eliminate, risk of STD. Individuals likely to
become infected or known to be infected with human immunodeficiency virus (HIV) should be
aware that condom use cannot completely eliminate the risk of transmission to themselves
or to others.
2. You don't know what my
status is and I don't know what your status is. We both could be infected or we might not
be. Just because I look healthy and just because you look healthy doesn't mean anything. I
have friends who are younger than me that are HIV+. They thought they were choosy but they
weren't.
3. You should only have sex
when you want to; only with those you want to be sexual with, and only in ways that are
enjoyable and as safe as possible.
4. Nonoxynol-9 (N-9) is a
substance which is commonly used as a spermicide; when placed in the vagina, and used in
conjunction with another form of birth control such as condoms, it is a very effective
contraceptive. This should be used in conjunction with the condoms. Remember, that this is
a CONTRACEPTIVE and does NOT prevents HIV/AIDS.
5. "We just had oral sex,
so HIV can't be spread." WRONG... in all cases, you must use some kind of prectective
barrier. You'll need to use latex condoms (without Nonoxynol-9) for fellatio, and either
saran wrap or one of those "Glyde" dams for cunnilingus.
6. Wash Your Hands! Do you
remember where you had your hands? If your skin is compromised in any way, if you want to
avoid needing to leave the scene to wash your hands. If you engage in more
"dirty" activities, you may want to consider latex gloves also. |
