Article - Meeting In Reality

Meeting In Reality

Taking That Special Romance Out Of Cyberspace, and Into Reality

Meeting In Cyberspace

1. Never give out our phone number. People can find out all kinds of information on your "true location" by that phone number. Either get a pager or arrange to have them call you on a pay phone.

2. Be careful of the pictures that you send other people. You may want to be "sexy", but these sexy photos can turn up on other websites. Be especially careful if you are going to send nude photos. This is NOT recommended!!!

3. Be careful of your online nickname. Remember that is how people "classify" you. This tells alot about people's personalities. If you advertise for bad behavior, you are going to get it.

4. Be choosey about the sites that you visit... Do you really think that you are going to meet our soulmate on a sex channel? Might happen, but very unlikely. Try online dating services and personal ads. Be careful to choose one that will let you determine what kind of person you are looking for.

5. Never give out your exact location. The safest thing is to give out just regional information, such as "Northwest Arizona." Definately, under no circumstances, give out your exact street address. I would think twice on giving out even your city name!

Meeting In Reality

1. Make sure to talk to as many people as possible (as often as possible) who actually know your online love in the real world. This can be done by doing some research on that area. You can also look for people on chat search engines who live in that area.

2. Always meet in a neutral place. Especially try for a public place. Always leave your self an "escape route." Have a plan on what to do if this person attempts to harm you in anyway, or makes unwanted advances.

3. Make it fun! Most cities (especially major cities) have extensive online guides. Visit a few of them together on the web and plan out an itinerary of everything you both want to do. This will help with the torture of waiting until you get to see each other and also help your love in deciding the never-ending question of... what should we do!

4. Stay in a hotel and/or have a way out in case things don't turn out the way you had hoped. This allows for a neutral setting for your stay to take place. If you feel comfortable with your situation once you arrive then go ahead and stay with your love, if that is an option... or relish in the luxuries of a visit in your hotel!

5. Follow your instincts. This is the most important rule! Don't let yourself get involved in something you may not feel comfortable with or have a feeling will not be safe.

If you follow these tips (and your instincts!) you should have a wonderful time. I wish you the greatest of luck and... fun!! :)

So, You Want To Have Sex In Reality

1. ALWAYS use a condom. Prevention is the most effective strategy for controlling the spread of infectious diseases. Prevention through avoiding exposure is the best strategy for controlling the spread of sexually transmitted disease (STD). Proper use of condoms with each act of sexual intercourse can reduce, but not eliminate, risk of STD. Individuals likely to become infected or known to be infected with human immunodeficiency virus (HIV) should be aware that condom use cannot completely eliminate the risk of transmission to themselves or to others.

2. You don't know what my status is and I don't know what your status is. We both could be infected or we might not be. Just because I look healthy and just because you look healthy doesn't mean anything. I have friends who are younger than me that are HIV+. They thought they were choosy but they weren't.

3. You should only have sex when you want to; only with those you want to be sexual with, and only in ways that are enjoyable and as safe as possible.

4. Nonoxynol-9 (N-9) is a substance which is commonly used as a spermicide; when placed in the vagina, and used in conjunction with another form of birth control such as condoms, it is a very effective contraceptive. This should be used in conjunction with the condoms. Remember, that this is a CONTRACEPTIVE and does NOT prevents HIV/AIDS.

5. "We just had oral sex, so HIV can't be spread." WRONG... in all cases, you must use some kind of prectective barrier. You'll need to use latex condoms (without Nonoxynol-9) for fellatio, and either saran wrap or one of those "Glyde" dams for cunnilingus.

6. Wash Your Hands! Do you remember where you had your hands? If your skin is compromised in any way, if you want to avoid needing to leave the scene to wash your hands. If you engage in more "dirty" activities, you may want to consider latex gloves also.

Have Fun, But Most Importantly

BE SAFE!!!